The Number of Lonely Single Men is on the Rise

Number of ‘lonely, single’ men is on the rise as women with higher dating standards look for partners who are are ’emotionally available, good communicators, and share similar values’, says psychologist

By Jessica Green For Mailonline

Published: 07:38 EDT, 15 August 2022

Men are lonelier than ever as they struggle to meet the higher dating standards of modern women, according to a psychologist.

American psychologist Greg Matos wrote in a recent Psychology Today article (https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-state-our-unions/202208/the-rise-lonely-single-men) that the current state of young and middle-aged men’s love lives shows they need to ‘address a skills deficit’.

He said: ‘I hear recurring dating themes from women between the ages of 25 and 45: They prefer men who are emotionally available, good communicators, and share similar values’. Yet, he claimed he’s found that modern men’s biggest problem is communication, which is ‘the lifeblood of healthy, long-term love’.

It comes as data shows dating apps are overrun with men – who represent 62 per cent of users – and figures collected in the US in 2019 showed more men than women were single.

Dr Matos said society fails to teach young boys the importance of communication, which has resulted in growing numbers of unintentionally single men.

Over the last 30 years, men have become a larger portion of that growing group of long-term single people,’ explained the psychologist.

‘And while you don’t actually need to be in a relationship to be happy, men typically are happier and healthier when partnered.’

He also said the overwhelming number of online dating options has led to both men and women becoming ‘increasingly selective’, and competition is fierce.

Single men are statistically less happy, more likely to be unemployed and financially unstable.

Data points to societal changes that have taken place even in just the past few decades which allows lots more women to make informed choices about their relationships. (https://www.dailymail.co.uk/femail/article-11112791/Number-lonely-single-men-rise-says-psychologist.html)

New Old News

I received an email from an old friend upon resurrecting the blog. He wanted to bring the recent article at Chessbase.com concerning a topic about which I had written almost three years earlier (http://en.chessbase.com/post/evaluating-our-favourite-brain-boosters). I thanked him, informing that I had seen it first at GM Kevin Spraggett’s blog a few weeks earlier (http://www.spraggettonchess.com/more-bad-news-for-chess/). He wanted to know if I could tell him where to locate the earlier articles appearing on the AW. I could not do so offhand, but told him I would take the time to find them and with that accomplished I have decided to post them in the event anyone else would like to read them.

The article, written by David Ludden, Ph.D, appeared in the October 28 2017 of Psychology Today. He is a professor of psychology at Georgia Gwinnett College, whom I do not know and, to my knowledge, have never met, so I have absolutely no idea why he decided to write an article about such old news. I have no idea if he plays Chess, or any other game for that matter. I am as curious as anyone else as to why the article appeared.

This is a list, which may be incomplete, of the articles pertaining to the study, or possibly studies, written years ago:

February 24, 2015
The Future of Chess is Terrifying

February 25, 2015
Will Confusion Be Our Epitaph

February 27, 2015
Does Playing Chess Make You Smarter?

February 28, 2015
Can You Handle the Truth?

March 5, 2015
Chess Offers Low-level Gains for Society

https://blog.oup.com/2017/01/language-chess-linguistics/

https://www.vice.com/en_us/article/av4bb4/the-hidden-language-of-chess-players-225